Why Colleges Care About a Student's "So What" and How to Help Your Teen Find Their Spark
A lesson in self-awareness and how it fits into the bigger college acceptance puzzle.
I've worked with countless teenagers who have resumes that would impress most 40-year-olds. Kids today are over-programmed, often subscribing to a "checkbox culture" of activities aimed at impressing others. But what if we flipped the script? What if we helped our students find their inner spark, their "so what," so their activities become a reflection of their genuine passions and values?
When students pursue activities that resonate with them, their college applications tell a more authentic story. It's as simple as that.
Why "So What" Matters to Colleges
Colleges aren't just looking for students with stellar grades; they're building a community. They want individuals who are self-aware, passionate, and ready to contribute. Here's why:
Enhanced Learning Environment: Self-aware students contribute more meaningfully to classroom discussions and add a richer learning experience for everyone. Passionate students bring energy and diversity to campus. Whether they're joining clubs, leading organizations, or initiating projects, they contribute to a dynamic community.
Future Success: Colleges aim to produce graduates who thrive. Self-aware students are better equipped to navigate challenges, pursue their goals, and make a positive impact on the world, reflecting well on the institution. Not to mention a successful grad means the potential for donor dollars down the line!
Stronger Community Bonds: Students invested in their community build stronger connections with peers and faculty. This fosters a sense of belonging and support, leading to a more positive and productive college experience.
Reduced Risk: Students who know themselves are less likely to face academic or personal difficulties, reducing the burden on support services.
Helping Your Teen Uncover Their "So What"
Forget the pressure of finding a "one true calling." Instead, encourage your teen to explore their interests:
Diversify Experiences: Encourage them to try new things – volunteer, join clubs, explore different subjects. The more they experiment, the clearer their interests become.
Pay Attention to What Engages Them: What activities make them lose track of time? What topics spark their curiosity? These are clues to their passions.
Identify Values: What issues are important to them? Social justice? Environmental protection? Their values can guide them toward meaningful pursuits.
Embrace Change: Interests evolve. Encourage them to explore new paths as they grow and learn.
Putting Passion into Practice
Once your teen has a better sense of their interests, help them translate those passions into action:
Assess Skills: Are they good communicators, problem-solvers, or creative thinkers? Help them identify their strengths and how they can be applied to causes they care about.
Research Local Organizations: Encourage them to connect with organizations that align with their interests and offer their skills and time.
Get Creative: Volunteering isn't the only option. They can use their talents to start a project, raise awareness, or organize an event.
Collaborate and Connect: Help them find like-minded individuals who share their passions. Working together amplifies their impact and provides support.
Summer is the perfect time to explore potential passions.
Real-Life Inspiration
Here are a few examples to help your teen think about their "so what":
Future Lawyer for the NFL: A young woman passionate about sports and justice might aim to level the playing field for under-served athletes or advocate for gender equality in a male-dominated field.
Future Neuroscientist: A student who lost a loved one to a neurological disease might be driven to better understand the brain and contribute to research.
Future Real Estate Mogul: A social, athletic teen with an interest in sustainability might pursue real estate development with an environmental focus.
Future Hollywood Set Designer: A creative entrepreneur who started an Etsy business selling masks might pursue their passion for set design in the film industry.
The Ripple Effect
By encouraging your teen to pursue their passions and use their skills to help others, teens not only make a difference in their community but also discover more about themselves and what truly matters to them. Encourage them to explore, discover, and find their “so what.”
Helping you soar sooner,
Carrie